Our patriarchal society expects us to be demure and ‘ladylike’, this often encompasses attributes like laughing softly and ‘knowing when and where to speak’. On a day-to-day basis a woman today is expected to work and provide for the family because, well it is progress isn’t it. Most women today are conflicted between societal expectations and individualistic needs. Which only makes life tougher for a 21st century woman.

Yes, we have the voting right but is our society cultured enough to give all that is ours?

The number working wives and mothers have increased over the decades because of the need to make more money. This certainly is not the ideal patriarchal method of leading a life, an ideal scenario will be the man of house making the money, the wife staying at home maintaining the household and raising perfect children. So, as this had been the practice for centuries our men have it instilled in them that women are supposed to do the cooking, cleaning and caring for the children.

How is this fair to the women who work and provide for the family substantially if not equally?

Especially when a woman is expected to work, get home clean the house, prepare dinner, care for the children and of course in many case be the caring wife.

I am not condemning the entire male population of this ignorance but certainly most of them have learned from the previous generation that a woman’s place is in the house. The fact that women today do work and have great careers has not exactly changed this mind-set which is rather prominent in Asian cultures (personally I’m not very sure about the western world).

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2 thoughts on “Why is it tougher to be a woman in the 21st century?

  1. > Our patriarchal society expects us to be demure and ‘ladylike’,

    For centuries women excused themselves from the only work available at the time – manual labour of some kind – by emphasising their feminine qualities, to the point of caricature. The wearing of frivolous and impractical clothing which emphasised women’s frailness combined with demure and ‘ladylike’ behaviour was designed to provoke men to provide resources and protection to women. And it worked like a charm.

    When modern technology (electricity, cars, tractors, indoor plumbing, plastics, telephones, typewriters etc) came along and raised living standards for all and created new work environments which were more appealing to women (the modern office and mechanised factory) women finally decided to drop the ultra feminine caricature, put on a pair of pants, roll up their sleeves and get a job.

    But some women resented the new freedoms – and responsibilities – which came with increased opportunities. These women split into two groups (1) traditionalists who chose to carry on being demure housewives in return for financial support from their men (2) feminists who demanded free stuff and special treatment from society (mostly male tax payers) but offered nothing of value in return.

    In an attempt to justify their demands the feminists invented ‘patriarchy theory’ which claimed their female ancestors, instead of CHOOSING to be demure and feminine as a way to opt out of manual labour, were actually FORCED by men to stay at home in relative comfort and safety while the men enjoyed the privileged life of a coal miner, shipyard worker, agricultural labourer, construction worker, fisherman or soldier.

    > On a day-to-day basis a woman today is expected to work and provide for the family because, well it is progress isn’t it.

    On a day to day basis men still do the majority of dangerous and strenuous jobs which is why 95% of workplace deaths are still men.

    > Most women today are conflicted between societal expectations and individualistic needs. Which only makes life tougher for a 21st century woman.

    Whereas men just lie about on cushions eating grapes, bathing in milk and watching TV news reports showing all the women sent off to war, putting out fires, policing the streets and building and maintaining the infrastructure.

    > Yes, we have the voting right but is our society cultured enough to give all that is ours?

    When men demanded the vote they had to agree to fight wars for the state in return. Not long afterwards women demanded the vote and got it without any obligations. Women’s suffrage was therefore and example of female privilege and not gender equality. Are women cultured enough to thank men (many of which were still essentially boys) for dying in their millions over the last century so that women didn’t have to?

    > The number working wives and mothers have increased over the decades because of the need to make more money.

    Before feminism even a blue collar family could live off the man’s wages alone. Household debt was almost unheard of. Then feminists abandoned their babies and flooded the workplace allowing government to raise taxes, expand in size, start more wars and spread their empire overseas (the US now has 800 overseas military bases). As a result most families today can barely support themselves even with both parents working full time. This means children must be abandoned soon after birth …… in this in the 21st century in the so called developed world! Way to go feminists!

    > This certainly is not the ideal patriarchal method of leading a life, an ideal scenario will be the man of house making the money, the wife staying at home maintaining the household and raising perfect children.

    Feminists hate to acknowledge the fact that children actually REQUIRE full time care for at least the first 5 years of their life. Feminists can acknowledge that taking five years off from work to nurture a baby will negatively impact your career, but they refuse to acknowledge that taking five years off from parenting an infant to nurture your career will negatively impact the child. They deny this even as we start forcibly drugging children just to stop them from throwing themselves of buildings or cutting themselves.

    > So, as this had been the practice for centuries our men have it instilled in them that women are supposed to do the cooking, cleaning and caring for the children.

    For centuries children needed raising, houses needed cleaning and food needed preparing and cooking (no convenience foods, no supermarkets)….. meanwhile the coal needed digging out of the ground, the crops needed harvesting and the roads were not going to build themselves. Men went off to do all these manual labour jobs, while the women stayed in bed. But some men were horrible and they said to women “Maybe you might like to take care of the children, do the dishes and cook some dinner while I am deep underground mining coal with a pick axe?” The bastards!

    > How is this fair to the women who work and provide for the family substantially if not equally?

    As a whole women receive far more unearned income from men than men receive from women. Millions of women are financially supported by their husbands either partly or totally. It is still rare (although less rare than it once was) for men to be financially supported by their wives.

    > Especially when a woman is expected to work, get home clean the house, prepare dinner, care for the children and of course in many case be the caring wife.

    And men are expected to work more hours, in more demanding, less flexible and better paid jobs so they can be the primary earners.

    > I am not condemning the entire male population of this ignorance but certainly most of them have learned from the previous generation that a woman’s place is in the house.

    Which is another way of saying they learned from a previous generation (not least from their mothers) that a man’s place is doing manual labour, fighting on the battle field and generally working flat out to be the primary provider for the family.

    > The fact that women today do work and have great careers has not exactly changed this mind-set which is rather prominent in Asian cultures (personally I’m not very sure about the western world).

    Children still need looking after and housework still needs to be done. In the west if both parents work then the responsibility for household chores usually falls more on the person who has the least demanding career.

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  2. >Before feminism even a blue collar family could live off the man’s wages alone.

    I see you’re implying that the economic upheaval happened because feminism was propagated. Is it safe to assume that if women did not start to work the economy would have been the same? Women did participate in heavy duty blue collar jobs when the men were off at war albeit slower and less efficient comparatively. Nonetheless capable.

    >And men are expected to work more hours, in more demanding, less flexible and better paid jobs so they can be the primary earners.

    If women are expected maintain households isn’t it only fair that men are expected to be primary earners of a family.

    >For centuries children needed raising, houses needed cleaning and food needed preparing and cooking (no convenience foods, no supermarkets)

    Now that things have changed why not split the household chores and child raising responsibilities.

    >Feminists hate to acknowledge the fact that children actually REQUIRE full time care for at least the first 5 years of their life.

    No they just hate to acknowledge that they have to be solely responsible for it. If you could create a being with me why not help me raise it????

    Hey just voicing out my opinion and thoughts… Anyway what do you think about women not being allowed to drive is that fair???

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